Unkindness hurts and does not often fade without shards in the heart. Boundaries are important – critical. We must never allow others to abuse us when we are open and vulnerable. We must not continually walk back into battles that will never go away. We must kindly retreat to restoration. We must not let others determine our worth. We must not allow our hearts to be abused, warped, diminished, manipulated, or exploited.
People are to be loved, not used.
Practice healthy disengagement – it’s worth it. And so are you. You have a right to stand up for yourself. You have a right to walk away. You have a right to go where the peace is.
You are so very loved.
xoxo
Good one – we have all experienced relationships that were not good for us and it is so hard to disengage, but we are so much better for it when we can do it. For me it takes so long to let go of some things including relationships. i pray to be better about this in 2013. I know you will help me!!!! Cheryl
the sad part is that it takes me a long time to fully recognize, then acknowledge the danger to my self, because manipulators are so subversively skilled. I’ve found that ‘bullies’ morph into ‘babies’ to rally others to ‘their side’ when I shake loose, too…sounding a clarion call for ‘let’s you and me hate her’. Yikes – what a gift.
Like David wrote about over and over in Psalms, a relationship with God helps mightily with discernment and personal safety