Pardon this humble brag as entry to a blog post:
My husband and I have pro-level social skills.
- Part of this expertise comes from our careers. His as a sales and marketing manager and mine as a speech-language pathologist. We can read body language, note tone of voice, and have bodacious vocabularies. We are empathetic listeners with great bullshit detectors, though I admit his is better honed than mine.
- Part of our social ease comes from having living among people of all shapes, sizes, and variety for seventy plus years. Between us, we’ve lived in large cities, mid-sized cities, and small towns. We’ve lived in rural and suburban settings, though nothing as urban as Chicago or New York. We’re both highly averse to the rat race that logically comes from over-crowding in a faceless, tasteless landscape. Give us blue skies and green grass over concrete. Living amidst the sensory settings of nature promotes kinship, we agree.
- Our social repertoire has been magnified by our extensive travel throughout the States and abroad. Different cultures, different climates, different points of view have been experienced and appreciated.
- Part of our social savviness derives from our teamwork, the fact that our experiences and values are similar, so we can agree.
This final element of the trifecta of social awareness fosters our insight that certain family members can only promise a fake future for closeness, love, and appreciation. Our radar, as cited above, helps us see the truth of words and deeds, whether we like it or not.
Heartache and lasting aggravation avoided!
In a recent incident, we immediately recognized that the individual who cited a fake future of “kicking your ass” was a brash and fractious ass incapable of doing it. In past incidents, we’ve recognized the “queen bee” whose envy blighted care and concern for us – and who tried to take a wrecking ball to our reputations. In another, the person was “in the spectrum” and unable to truly see or feel my point of view, so I gave up trying. Need I go on?
Bosses, co-workers, and others in your and our lives have offered a fake futures as enticement to get you/us to do something for them in the present. Do you recall empty promises made? Did you catch onto the ploy in time? Care to share in the comments?
Read more about the fake future notion here: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-future-faking/
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