There’s an axiom: “If you’re not busy living, you’re busy dying.” It’s a paraphrase of words written, then voiced by Bob Dylan in this song –

It’s uttered twice in the vaunted movie, The Shawshank Redemption. Once by the young convict, played by Timothy Robbins, and the other instance by the wise guy, played by Morgan Freeman. Interestingly – and pertinent tangentially to this post – Morgan Freeman played a white tuxedo-attired God in the movie, Bruce, then Evan Almighty.

But I digress. The purpose of this blog post is to consider my obit. Have you ever done that? What would be written on your tombstone or urn? What would people say about you when you’re gone? What do you hope they say… well, get busy. Think, then do-be-do-be-do.

If you’re not busy living, you’re busy dying…

Here are some of my picks, many based upon feedback I’ve received and the impressions that I’ve gathered from the people with whom I’ve interacted:

  • “You’re goofy. You don’t take yourself too seriously, do you?”
  • She had a great sense of humor and a great sense of humanity
  • “You have a lively spirit that compels others to join your orbit/party.”
  • She never lost her sense of wonder
  • “You lit up the room!”
  • She valued adventure
  • “I chose you because of your charisma.”
  • She was Peace and Joy
  • “You radiate positivity and cheer others on.”
  • Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars
  • “You are a bewitching woman.”

Gosh, I blush as I recollect. Introspection is not my usual mode. I’m all about being in the moment, having adventures and fun. Laughing and speaking tongue-in-cheek. Making eye contact to establish rapport. Quizzing others and watching their faces and moves to get to know and adore them… or not. I’ve only met two people in my life that I instantly despised – all others who fall into that category (yes, there are a few I ignore/avoid as self-protection) have earned my full disregard by their words and/or deeds. Nothing of what they said – that was reported to me via friends –  will make the cut for my obit or epitaph.)

So, what’s it gonna be, Constant Reader? Contemplate your obit and ponder the wording of your headstone or urn and tell me in the comments… if you’re searingly honest, committed, and brave.

If you’re not busy living, you’re busy dying…